Posted by: anxiouslyengaged | August 26, 2008

Blushing Bride or Bride of Frankenstein?

Imagine your wedding day is today. There you are, standing next to your handsome husband. Your beautiful bridal gown floats softly from side to side as you pivot on your pearl heels. Your friends and family are chatting excitedly nearby to greet you. You engage in a conversation with your husband and bridesmaid, waiting patiently as the reception line forms. Your first guest in line, a long time friend, leans in for a hug. As she pulls away, she looks up and down, an admiring look on her face. You are sure she will say something like, “You look gorgeous!” Instead, she points her finger at your face and asks, “Who did your makeup…Bozo?” Gasping, you cover your face. You shrink beneath your loved one’s tuxedo. It seems like the entire room is staring.

Before you start looking for accessories to match the paper bag you plan on wearing over your head, take a deep breath and relax. There is still plenty of time to prevent this nightmare from happening.

Here are tips guaranteed to keep your look fresh:

-Remember the word natural. You may want to pull your look together from the hot trends of the season, but be careful not to go overboard. If your mother dressed trendy for her wedding back in the day, do you think she would still enjoy seeing herself in purple mascara and metallic blue eyeliner? How about that fluff of hair that covered the groom? When you dust off your wedding photos twenty years down the road, what would you like to see?

-If you prefer someone else to do your makeup, have a list of beauticians ready. See them before your wedding. Try on their makeover for a day. Does it look natural on you? Will it last all day? If either of these questions are a no, move down your list and try again.

-Avoid too much color on your face. Stick with warm tones like light pinks, peaches, plums and tans. These colors enhance natural beauty.

-When you choose your wedding colors, pick ones that compliment your skin tone. Stay away from rich colors that may over-power you.

-Spice up your skin care routine. If you struggle with acne, buy a benzoyl peroxide topical treatment and dab it on each night before bed. Use a facial scrub that has salycic acid of at least 1%. Other helpful ingredients for overall appearance are AHA (alpha-hydroxy acid) and BHA (beta-hydroxy acid). The best products containing these are moisturizers and facial scrubs. You can find several different types of products at your local drugstore, simply read the labels. Start new regimens at least six weeks before your wedding. Never try a new product within a week of your wedding, you never know when you’ll have an allergic reaction!

-Nothing is more natural than your own smile. Take care of your teeth so that they shine. Don’t be afraid to use whitening trays or strips for extra brightness.

Once your wedding day arrives, it will be all eyes on you.

Let them stare, with some preparation you can look flawless!

written by Kylee Wilkins

Posted by: anxiouslyengaged | July 25, 2008

Strapped For Cash?

So, both your and your fiancée are in school, you each have a sibling on a mission, your sister was just married a month ago, and things are looking dismal! After all, your part-time nanny job isn’t going to pay for the perfect dress! So, how can you save money, but still have the wedding of your dreams?

1. Delegate: First, decide who is going to pay for what. Do your parents think a photographer is an unnecessary luxury? (After all, Uncle Joe has a great camera, and he takes incredible pictures of birds!) Are his parents willing to give up their timeshare week to you for your honeymoon?

Traditionally, here’s the breakdown:


The Bride pays for: Groom’s wedding ring and wedding gift, gifts for bridemaids, and hotels for any out-of-town bridemaids.

The Groom pays for: Bride’s rings and wedding gift, marriage license, hotels for any out-of-town groomsmen, gifts for groomsmen and the honeymoon.

Bridesmaids pay for: their dresses, engagement party or bachelorette party, and bridal shower.

Groomsmen pay for: their tuxes, engagement party or bachelor party.

The Groom’s family pays for: ties for groomsmen, Bride’s bouquet, Corsages for relatives, groomsmen’s boutonnieres, groom’s cake, luncheon, help with the honeymoon.

The Bride’s family pays for: all reception costs, bridesmaid’s flowers, all decorations, wedding cake, music or DJ, photographer, invitations, announcements and save-the-date cards, Bride’s dress and accessories, everything else not listed.


Of course, you don’t have to go with tradition. If there are two receptions, typically the mother of the bride is in charge of one, and the mother of the groom is in charge of the other. If the bride’s family hires the vendors (photographer, videographer, florist, etc.) then the groom’s family should be responsible for the luncheon or dinner on the day of the sealing. The best thing is to do it in a way that all families are involved, and feel comfortable. Some families just split the cost right down the middle!


2. Budget: A budget is essential. The last thing you want is to go into marriage with a bunch of debt, or a mother-in-law who resents you because you are the cause of all her maxed-out credit cards.


Now that you have everything delegated and assigned, talk about each item with the person responsible, and set a budget. This will help you to find vendors you love without breaking the bank. If you find the perfect photographer, but your mother faints when she sees the prices, it’ll be harder to let it go than if you know upfront what you can spend, then choose your favorite from the photographers in your budget.


3. Network: Everyone knows someone who knows someone. Ask all your friends who they know, or who they used for their wedding. It’s important to know that just because you know someone, don’t expect a discount. They still have a business to run! But if you give them your budget, they may be more apt to work with it than someone you don’t know.


4. Find the Newbies: Figure out which things you are willing to give to someone who isn’t very experienced, then using your network, find people who are just breaking into the business. Chances are they’ll be cheaper, maybe even free! Many design, culinary and photography schools are a good place to find students who need to build their experience and portfolios. Of course, remember that quality may suffer, as they are inexperienced, but it is a great option for someone on a tight budget.


5. Go Commercial: Offer advertising. No, really! Although advertising on your announcements may be considered a bit tacky, there are other ways to advertise. Ask your caterer if you can get a discount if you put a sign on the food table “Catering by Yum-Yum”. Many restaurants will agree to this, as will some Cake Decorators, Florists and Designers. Get creative!


6. Buy Used: Buy your wedding dress, childrens’ formal clothes, decorations, and other necessities, used. Search Ebay and craigslist. Be sure you do this as far in advance as possible, as you never quite know what you’re getting until you have it in your hands.


7. Do-It-Yourself: Assemble favors, design invites, make cakes, sew dresses, etc. Mormons are the among most talented people on earth, make use of it!


8. Sacrifice Where You Can: This is a time to keep perspective on what is important, but you don’t want to regret things later. Sacrifice the things that you’ll never remember: reception food, favors, whether the frosting on the cake is buttercream or that whipped cream/lard stuff. The number one regret brides have years after their wedding? Not getting a great photographer. If you have to make sacrifices, think about which ones are really important to you.


So, here’s to you! You are now fully educated on the ways of the frugal wedding. Go Forth, and Save!

written by Elizabeth Dorathy

Posted by: anxiouslyengaged | July 19, 2008

Anxiously Engaged?

You’ve done it! You finally found the person of your dreams, and it’s time to start the crazy time that is known as “wedding planning”. Well, you’ve come to the right place! Anxiously Engaged is the site that helps you with your needs as an LDS bride or groom. We all know that LDS weddings are different than other weddings. The engagements are absurdly short, for one! Tell someone who’s not LDS and is engaged that you pulled off a wedding in 3 months, and their jaw drops to the floor! Not to mention how they react when you tell them what your budget was! Yep, Mormons are the champions of stretching a buck. There are other differences as well. Most people don’t have to deal with the extra stress of family tension, when not all family members are able to attend the ceremony. Not to mention if the temple is in a different city, or you are having two receptions, you’re planning several important events in a short period of time.  Yes, LDS weddings are unique with their own special stressors and joys. That’s where we come in. Consider us your helpful aunt, with all the knowledge one needs to plan the perfect, memorable and lower-stress wedding. (You thought we’d say stress-free? Come on, we’re your genius, helpful realistic aunt.)


Here on the blog you will find helpful articles. On the website you’ll find links to temples and vendors that service those temple areas. So, take a deep breath, everything will be okay! Above all, remember that you will be marrying your beloved soon, and that’s what’s most important! If you ever have any questions, or need moral support, or need to find an awesome photographer or florist, come see your auntie!

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